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When team members compete – who wins?

July 24, 2010 · by Bob Faw

I often ask this question during speeches or trainings, “When you all compete among yourselves, who wins?”

Every time some people respond immediately with, “Nobody”.

I then say, “someone wins”… After a few seconds the light bulb goes on over some people’s heads and they yell out, “our competitors”.

Our brain triggers “F Responses” (fight, flight and freeze) when we’re under stress and we begin treating other team members as enemies. We can feel so righteous and sure of ourselves when we’re doing this (this is the adrenaline, cortisol, etc., pumping through our bodies). Yet when we step back it’s so clear that we win the most when we collaborate.

That’s part of why I talk about “R Responses” as a way to cool off and see the situation more clearly… and begin to see our co-workers as the team members they actually are.

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Do you want to be more popular?

July 15, 2010 · by Bob Faw

What is everyone’s favorite topic – their own successes.

Help others feel good

Do you want to be more popular?  Sincerely look for and acknowledging other’s real strengths, accomplishments and insights.

The best leaders (described as Level 5 Leaders in “Good to Great“) surround themselves with others who have superior skill sets, abilities and talents. Then they encourage them to do their work. These are the kind of leaders that people will go the extra 10 miles for.

Look for what is best about your spouse. Share that in a sincerely appreciative way.

Look for the talents in your children – let them know as well.

Appreciate out loud what you like about your friends – become more popular.

Just keep it real. Sincerity is key to lasting relationships.

And do it for yourself as well. Acknowledge your strengths, build on them, celebrate them. (for those that are modest — when we celebrate others strengths first most people are willing to give us credit for ours as well.

If enough people do this, the culture of your company/family/circle of friends becomes more fun, more effective and safer to try new things.

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You are what you experience as well…

April 18, 2010 · by Bob Faw

Here’s a great article “Materialistic people liked less by peers than ‘experiential’ people”

ScienceDaily (2010-04-16) — People who pursue happiness through material possessions are liked less by their peers than people who pursue happiness through life experiences, according to a new study.

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