The Amazing Kreskin clarifies on Big Think that positive thinking isn’t magical. However, by staying focused on the goal and positively looking for ways to get there, you become more resourceful.
I had the distinct pleasure of seeing Ryan Estis tell this story again yesterday at dynamic NEHRA conference. The hero of this true story, Lily (#LilyEffect), demonstrates powerfully how we can create purpose that fulfills ourselves, wow customers, and create “evangelist customers” who spread the word about us.
All around us is both dreary, dull and irritating things, as well as amazing, exciting and beautiful things. We have to intentionally focus on the amazing, excitement and beauty around us to counteract the Negativity Bias, and challenges of everyday life.
I started a practice around ten years ago of looking for the beauty in as many situations as possible. I’m blown away at how much beauty is actually around me! Free! To be enjoyed just by looking for it. The flowers in my neighbor’s yard, the kindness of an elderly woman helping her ailing husband so gently, the joy children are feeling as they chase soap bubbles, the nuggets of wisdom in someone I once saw as an enemy, and so much more. The quality of my life has improved the more habitually I’ve done this.
For more Positive Psychology tips like this one listen to Shawn Achor. He’s amazing.
(Bob’s goofy caveman comes out in the outtake)
Learn more at Influencing Your Inner Movie – The Thinker and the Caveman (10 minute video by the Matchbox Group)
Bob Faw, interviewed on NEDD Radio by Tom Raffio, head of Northeast Delta Dental
When you have the whole A.C.T. team (Artist, Caveman and Thinker) working together, you are at your best. You can tell you are in this space when you have the following characteristics:
- You feel calm about whatever challenge you’re facing, but energized enough to make a difference. This means your Caveman is calm.
- You can see more than one perspective on the challenge; it’s not just “my way or the highway”. Understanding multiple points of view shows your Thinker is engaged.
- You use new approaches to the challenge and even want to try new things. This means your Artist is energized.
When you have your “A.C.T.” together, you can make your best decisions. You will be flexible, “change-ready,” have less stress, and be a more positive influence on other people. You’ll also be increasingly likable the more you are in this mode. The faster you can get your A.C.T. team to work together, the more you’ll enjoy your circumstances. You’ll increase passion and performance for a fulfilling and successful life.