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Get Creative with a Positive Focus

December 6, 2013 · by Bob Faw

(Bob’s goofy caveman comes out in the outtake)

Supporting research: http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/releases/a-positive-mood-allows-your-brain-to-think-more-creatively.html

Learn more at Influencing Your Inner Movie – The Thinker and the Caveman (10 minute video by the Matchbox Group)

 

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Rebalancing our negativity bias

November 14, 2013 · by Bob Faw

I explain some of the most helpful research I’ve read, with some tips… followed by a goofy outtake

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Karyn saved the day … with the Positive Change Questions

June 5, 2013 · by Bob Faw

Pos Change Question

Karyn Myers, in a leadership training course of mine, used the “Positive Change Questions” and “Positive Reframing” to help solve a high-stakes family challenge. I think it’s a wonderful story.

Positive Change Questions

  1. Goals: 
  2. What works?
  3. What else?
Situation: My son’s wedding.  The wedding party was meeting for the rehearsal the day before the wedding at 6:00pm.  During the rehearsal we realized that there WERE NO FLOWERS at the spot where the couple were exchanging vows.  The bride thought in May that there would be flowers grown in where the arbor was but there was nothing.  Needless to say, chaos ensued.  Cavemen came charging in with Freeze (the bride), Fight (moms and others), Flight (Groom).
  1. Goals: Decorate the area or get flowers and make sure everyone was still speaking at the rehearsal dinner (which was in 45 minutes).
  2. What worked: Asking everyone what we could do in the time that we had to fix the situation.  Everyone kept coming back to why/how did this happen, why didn’t someone think of this, how could this happen, etc.

Meanwhile, the time is ticking by with nothing happening and everyone blaming.  I came back a number of times asking for ideas to make this special for Melissa and Andrew (the bride and groom).  Responses, at first, started with, “I can’t believe this is happening…”. I tried to refocus them by saying that this gives us a great opportunity to do something for the couple and have a part in creating their ceremony.  That seemed to be the comment that started to bring people around.  Then ideas started coming from people about what they had at home, who could run to the store, florists in the area to contact right then, who could pick up if we found a florist, who would be in charge of setup.  It really drove home the positive concept for me because as soon as people realized that they could contribute in a meaningful way and knew what the end goal was things started to come together.  It was beneficial for me because I would not have handled this situation this way if I had not participated in this course.  I also would not have seen the situation in quite the same way – I would have been too involved in the emotions and blame.

3.    What else?:  This really wasn’t a situation where this applied to the group, but I was able to see positive change in action and had a part in its direction and seeing it evolve.  It was interesting to see the different personalities (Caveman, Artist, Thinker) come into play.

Question from Bob: Where can you save the day using these questions?

 

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A Teenager Describes the ACT Team

June 3, 2013 · by Bob Faw

A 16 year old describes the ACT Team

I love this presentation! Sualeh, one of the participants in a Leadership University of ours taught his family about the concepts. His daughter, Zahra, put these slides together.

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Highly Motivating Reframes – clients’ examples

March 25, 2013 · by Bob Faw

Positive Reframes

Reframing: This is a powerful motivational tool. Reframing our language helps us to influence the “inner movies” that we and others see in our minds. This can make a huge difference in how others perceive us and what we’re telling them. This is also true with family and friends. This truly can help “Make Friends and Influence People”.  Because of our caveman, our immediate gut reactions are often to focus on risks and only see problems. This can blurt out “caveman comments” that activate F Responses in others. Positive reframes create inner movies in people’s minds of the goals and the action needed to reach them. They also inspire the emotion needed to motivate people to action.

Wendy and Kevin, of the Litle & Co’s Leadership University class of 2012, give real-life examples of how they use reframes for great leadership.

Here are some other great examples of wonderful reframes from one of Litle’s stars. More will follow in later posts.

Personal Reframes

  1. Student with daughter Susan (age 9)

Susan and I watched the video on Bob’s blog “Influencing your Inner Movie – The Thinker & The Caveman” together.  Susan was eager to “get to the caveman” portion of the video.  As we were viewing the overview of the caveman…

Susan: “Caveman.  That’s like Ellen when she’s fighting with me!” (Ellen is her 7 year old sister)

Lisa (mommy): “Yes, that’s right!”

Susan: “Or like you when you yell at me.”

Lisa (mommy): “Yes…that’s why mommy is taking this class.  So I make better choices and reframe my words to be more positive.”

We talked about caveman behaviors and thinking behaviors, positive and negative comments and even about our Inner Movie.  Caveman and Thinking behaviors seem to resonate the most with Susan.  We agreed going forward when we got upset with each other or saw caveman behavior in each other we would use a shared “code word” as a reminder to reframe and choose our words more carefully.  Susan picked our code word: octopus flare. I agreed it was good choice and would definitely snap me out of my caveman moment!

We’ve reference the caveman and thinker throughout this week since our lesson – and our code word is definitely working.  It’s impossible NOT to smile (and laugh) when you’re saying/hearing octopus flare!

  1. Student with John (husband)

I shared the lesson of The Thinker & The Caveman with my husband John after my conversation with Susan.  John’s first observation was how Susan was quick to recognize/call out caveman behaviors in others, but not herself. J

Over the course of this week we’ve talked each night about different segments of the training.  Slightly different from my lesson with Susan, John and I have focused more on inner movie, reframing and 10:1 positive to negative comments.  And our greatest challenge: TONE.

We both realize an opportunity to reframe our communications with the girls to be more in line with the 10:1 positive to negative comments.  Most obvious has been our combined efforts to shift from telling them what NOT to do and reframing it into HOW to do something differently.

We also talked about the Chameleon Effect.  Specifically making judgments/assumptions about the girl’s abilities or presumed limitations (our inner movies perhaps?) and allowing that to guide our approach with them.  The story of the teacher with gifted/non-gifted children really hit home on the potential negative ramifications.

We’re not perfect – but we are definitely more aware!  As you’ll see in the reframe examples following…

Business Reframes

I.         Caveman Urge: I wanted to ask a team member what they were thinking (sarcastically and with annoyance!!!)  offering a client a free trial after we’d already offered the trial as a risk free trial (pay for service upfront with a money back guarantee).

Reframe:  I checked my temper and my inner movie and took the time to ask some qualifying questions about what conversations led up to the discussion and how the offer evolved.

Result:  Instead of letting my caveman loose and my temper run wild, I asked questions and took time to listen and understand how the situation evolved.  In doing so I learned the team member was inadvertently not included in several key discussions leading up to the client call, limiting their insight and resulting in lack of direction.  I took the opportunity to review the sequence of events, apologize for my oversight in the process and offer positive observations on where the team member took initiative and responsibility to move the opportunity forward.

II.         Caveman Urge: My seven year old daughter, Ellen, is having some trouble with separation anxiety in the morning before going to school.  I wanted to tell her not to be sad and to focus on happy things versus how much she misses mommy and daddy during the day.

Reframe: I remembered that referencing the feelings of sadness and missing us would bring up the feelings/thoughts that caused her to be upset in the first place.  So instead I said, “I feel like today is going to be a great day!” and steered the conversation toward activities happening that day that I knew she liked (e.g. gym, recess, etc.).

Results: The first day it took a lot of reframing/redirecting and we still had some tears.  Today she was less focused on sadness/missing and more focused on feeling like it would be a good day.

III.         Caveman Urge: I wanted to tell my nine year old daughter Susan that there would be no more TV in the morning before school unless she started listening to me (and moving faster) when I told her it was time to get dressed and ready for school. (In a loud, frustrated tone)

Reframe: I stopped to consider how my previous comments along those lines had failed to make any difference in our morning routine, and potential for conflict. I thanked Susan for making her bed that morning before being asked and asked her what else was needed done before we headed out to the bus stop.

Results: Susan brushed her teeth and her hair without further prompting and I kept my anxiety (and unnecessary caveman comments) to myself.  That night before bed we talked about ideas of things we could do to make getting ready in the morning smoother and less rushed and agreed to set our clothes out the night before.

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Influencing Your Inner Movie – The Thinker & The Caveman

September 13, 2012 · by Bob Faw

This is my favorite thing to teach. Being able to positively influence oneself is a critical skill for anyone increasing success, happiness, and even health.

There will be more videos teaching how to apply these concepts and tools in your life.

Stay tuned!

 

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Get your Caveman Passionate!

July 5, 2012 · by Bob Faw

Get Your Caveman Passionate

I was honored to be interviewed for Peter Sterlacci‘s video blog last week. In his view, part of what I do is what he calls a “Personal Brand Mechanic”. I talk about the Caveman and the Thinker and how to get them both engaged both in living your personal brand, and in creating positive change in general.

See the video.

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Gratitude improves health, happiness, love-life, popularity and more

November 11, 2011 · by Bob Faw

Scientific research brings us more proof of the power of gratitude!

A great blog post by Ocean Robbins…

The Neuroscience of Why Gratitude Makes Us Healthier

 

 

 

 

 

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Increasing positivity in every day life

September 30, 2011 · by Bob Faw

I just read a wonderful post by a dear colleague, Schon Beechler titled Battling the Barrage: Ten Ways to Bring Positivity into Every Day.

I added two powerfully positive things I do in the comments below her post as well.

Creating positivity despite the bad stuff

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Positive change agents – principles for enjoyable success

August 10, 2011 · by Bob Faw

We’ve used these principles to guide our positive change projects for years.  

These principles are keys to motivating busy people.

  1. Take the time to make goals clear and compelling.
  2. The easier it is to contribute the more people do it.
  3. Make starting steps doable and clear.
  4. Make sure people feel confident enough in their role.
  5. Frame goals, directions and other communication positively.
  6. Steady guidance at a strategic level keeps people on track and confident in success.
  7. Make questions specific, positive and generative.
  8. Keep focused on your top priority goal. Ensure that you’ve applied all the resources you need to to this goal.

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