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Video that speaks to positive life-transformation
Last year I blogged about this amazing nonprofit in “Deep full-life transformation“.
This video is a compilation of client interviews we made over about 6 months. Very inspiring!
Positive change agents – principles for enjoyable success
We’ve used these principles to guide our positive change projects for years.
These principles are keys to motivating busy people.
- Take the time to make goals clear and compelling.
- The easier it is to contribute the more people do it.
- Make starting steps doable and clear.
- Make sure people feel confident enough in their role.
- Frame goals, directions and other communication positively.
- Steady guidance at a strategic level keeps people on track and confident in success.
- Make questions specific, positive and generative.
- Keep focused on your top priority goal. Ensure that you’ve applied all the resources you need to to this goal.
Are you a positive change agent? – Survey
I’m not talking about secret agents … positive change agents are actually in the middle of the action, right in the public eye. They take risks all right, but the kind that help people and organizations grow.
See how many of these statements describe you to find out if you’re a positive change agent, a positive change agent in the making, or needing a weeklong retreat with a gaggle of positive change gurus. Then click the number that fits below the list.
- I look for a way to adapt when the change isn’t going my way.
- I know the journey is just as important as the destination.
- It is intuitively obvious that when people enjoy a change process it’s far more effective, fast and easy.
- I prefer to build on strengths and find the best in people, and not the old “break ’em down and build ’em the way you want them” method.
- It is obvious that the quality of a relationship is as important as the quality of an idea/product.
- I know why Appreciative Inquiry, Positive Psychology, Strength-based development, Positive Deviance, or Solution focus work so well.
- I’ve seen that win-win solutions make the most sustainable change.
- I’ve found that buy-in comes from authentic questions, real listening, and a chance to make a difference.
- I like solutions and talking about what to do far more than creating a list of problems and playing the blame game.
- I prefer a few core principles rather than a thick rulebook.
I’d love to hear more about how you create positive change.
“Resilience” thoughts from my mentors
In addition to having the honor of training others to increase Resilience, I’ve enjoyed learning from a couple of my mentors.
Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology talks about “flourishing” which is really at the heart of great resilience.
I’ve never met him, but I’ve learned a lot nonetheless.
This video explains the powerful of flourishing personally and globally.
Allen Hollander, who I’ve known for 20 years, has a great blog. His latest post explains the importance of how you interpret a traumatic situation. The more you are determined to learn from it, the more you can bounce back and grow.
I’m grateful to Allen, Martin, and all the other people who I’ve learned from over the years. Here’s to mentors!
Shifting the complex balance of decision making
Influencing decision-making is challenging if you don’t have direct power.
Even when you do it can be incredibly difficult if there are enough demotivators present. Many of the factors influencing decisions are unconscious, making it challenging to even sway oneself. If you doubt me…
CHOOSING TO LOSE WEIGHT: What percentage of dieters reach their goals? Even though we have high control, it would seem, over what food we put in our mouths, there are many other factors acting as demotivators against the “lose weight” goal. We eat for many reasons including emotional ones that counterbalance the desire to look good.
USING THE TEETER TOTTER EFFECT: Part of the success of influence rests upon our ability and willingness to put more motivators on the teeter totter, and take demotivators.
MOST CHANGE EFFORTS FAIL: As many as 70% of mergers and acquisitions lose profitability. A majority of those are due to culture clashes. These are situations where there are way too many balls on the demotivating side, and they were ignored, not understood, or assumed to not make a difference. Plus, there is rarely enough personal reasons for people in the organizations to work hard to make it work.
Free illustration handout click Teeter Totter Effect
FOCUS: Often helping people focus more strongly on the aspects of the change that motivate them personally are key to gaining buy-in to a major change. Also reducing the things that make them want to avoid your changes as if they were poison.
For ideas on how to have a positive influence see other blog posts:
Feedforward – influencing future good action
I’d LOVE to hear your ideas on how to tip the Teeter Totter to positive action. Please comment or send me an email.
Using classical music to inspire – video
This video shows Benjamin Zander in full glory presenting at TED.com. Being a world-class conductor, he speaks to influence and leadership using marvelous musical analogies. He has wonderful stories that are worth the video themselves as well. And his shoe salesmen joke is a classic example of looking for solutions.
Deep full-life transformation
There is an organization that helps their clients truly transform their lives. The Care Center in Nashua, NH.
Their clients move from…
fear to confidence
despair to hope
and
homelessness to security.
I’ve had the deep honor of interviewing a number of their past clients. Almost every one has talked about living a life of fear,
in a home where the mother’s and children’s physical safety was always questioned…
or one step away from living on streets…
The Transitional Housing Program (their flagship service) is a tightly run process that truly gives the women and their families every opportunity and every tool that they need to transform their life.
They told me that the major ingredient the clients must bring to it is their own grit. They must also believe in the future life they want for themselves and their children. They have to adapt to the supportive guidelines, heal their emotional wounds in therapy, learn new parenting skills, and improve the way they deal with finances. When they did all of this, they succeeded.
I noticed that what usually first drove the women to the Care Center was fear and pain. What then helped the successful ones to transform their life was a vision of greater health, security and well-being for themselves and their children.
There are powerful lessons for all of us in changing our own lives.
- Let the fear motivate you away from the danger; and then use the love for self and others to motivate to greater things.
- Be willing to adapt to radically new ways of doing things.
- Be grateful to those that offer you help – and take advantage of all the resources you can on your journey.
In the next few weeks I’m going to post video of some of the interviews, so that you too can be inspired by these heroic women.
Influencing a community to help the homeless
Have you ever wondered how to ignite passion for your goals with large groups? How to involve people to gain helpful input and buy-in? How to inspire people to follow-through with meaningful contributions?
Would you like to observe, or better yet participate, in a unique, free community summit?
Join me in a high-energy, fun, and emotionally meaningful event at the Harbor Homes Nashua Care Center, November 8, 2010 (click here for event information)
This special collaborative summit is an important part of the strategic planning process for the Care Center, a phenomenal nonprofit that you can think of as the “Harvard of the Homeless.” This center offers a “hand-up” to women who are committed to transforming their lives in order to achieve a stable home for themselves and their children. Graduates come from hard-knock situations and go through powerful programs to gain the skills, emotional stability and education to become strong, healthy, contributing citizens.
If you’re like me and you find REAL change an inspiring and fulfilling experience in your life, please come with an open mind and heart. You’ll hear a few stories from graduates of this challenging program, and from others who have been fulfilled by contributing to its success.
Then-and this truly is the fun part-you’ll join in a brainstorming session to uncover fresh ideas to help the Care Center be even more transformative going forward. You’ll see the power of Appreciative Inquiry and other positive-change tools in action. And you know me, it will be highly engaging, with lots of laughs, interaction, and insight.
Building resilience – not just managing stress
I have had the absolute pleasure to present a few Resilience workshops recently. They’re usually called “Stress Management training” for the client because that’s what people are used to. Yet, as the old saw goes, “prevention is the best cure”. It’s far easier to build resilience in yourself and your team, rather than try to manage tons of stress after it’s built up a lot.
One of the key factors in building and maintaining resilience is the way we influence ourselves. The influence skills we’ve been talking about in this blog are just as relevant for your inner world and personal life, as they are for professional success.
Some of the key elements that are so helpful for resilience are
- Identifying F Responses (fight, flight or freeze) in yourself and intentionally applying “R Responses” (relax, recharge and refocus)
- Giving yourself feedforward rather than scathing feedback when you can
- Focusing on clear, inspiring goals
- The “yes and” approach embedded in Improvisational Leadership
- Soothing images, like the ones I’ve posted
- And of course, “Influence your mood”
Build your resilience and thrive!